Everyone has something special they can share

July 10, 2011

What do you do when you get writes block??

A dear friend of mine posted this question on facebook earlier this week. I don’t consider myself a writer so I really didn’t spend any time thinking about it until now. Why…..because I am sitting at the car wash on a perfectly beautiful morning, trying to be productive working on my portable computer (Ok it is just a pad of paper and a pen) and this is my 4th effort to write something.

Creative writing is a talent that I can really appreciate. I can’t imagine how far in advance you have to think about the twists and turns that a plot has. I am just used to seeing the finish product (usually in a movie form). And after watching TV and movies for so long there is only so much any actor or actress can do for a poorly written script. But look what a well written script can do for an actor or actress. I am sure that behind every Oscar winner for Best actor or actress is a great script.

I look at the first two novels that my brother-in law, Dani, wrote with his brother. I don’t read fiction very often, but the books, “The Unincorporated Man” and “The Unincorporated War” were both about 500 pages and they were so good I didn’t want to put the books down. I think about some of my patients who write (there are so many of you it would be unfair to list any of you in case I forgot one).

I have toyed with the idea of writing something. I have about 5 lines in my head about a script where the good guy is terrified of dentists and of course his wife has to be a dentist. It involves mind control and gold and that is how far I have gotten. I have no idea of how to even get to the next step. Creativity is a gift.

But the truth is every single one of us has at least one really special attribute that we bring to the people in our lives. And I think one of the keys to one’s enjoying life and being fulfilled by it is to know what your attributes are and to share them with those around you. What do you have to offer of yourself that can help those around you?

That’s my message this week, just be who you are and try to bring some happiness into someone else’s life.

Hopefully the apple does not fall far from the tree

July 4, 2011

I have just finished the week of Shiva, which in Judaism is the week of mourning in memory of my father, Morris, who passed away at the age of 85. For the first few days of the week my brother David was there, but he went back to New York and my mother, sister and I sat through prayers on a daily basis and had many people visit and pay their respects. There were many family members, co-workers of my dad, sister and my world, as well as many people from our respective communities of faith.

I had plenty of time to listen to great stories about my dad and of course, many stories about my family were shared, some of which I knew nothing of before. There was a tremendous outpouring of sympathy and support for which I will forever be grateful for.

But I also had plenty of time to think about what the passing of my dad could mean to me. There are times when I am sad, and sometimes I just get a little teary eyed for what appears to be no reason at all. But for the most, I am grateful to have had my dad for the 53 years that I did, and I know that he was someone who accomplished so much, on so many different levels. I know that even though his physical presence is gone, his spirit will live long.

It also became crystal clear to me what I must seek to do to make sure that what he has started continues to grow, whether it is with family, community or faith. Usually when I have used the apple does not fall far from the tree, it has been regarding poor types of behavior. But in our community my father was not just a tree, he was a very large tree. And I really hope that as the apple I did not fall far from the tree. I know that it is my responsibility now to help the forest grow. It is in this way that I can best honor my father.